Sunday Reflections: Healthy Boundaries
The next day a friend had a issue come up. Evidently a lack of boundaries. I had a very real example to share. Love that!
What can happen is that we teach people to treat us poorly. By not expressing what we really think. Not speaking up. Being polite or holding in our feelings. It will keep happening until we give ourselves permission to say “no more”.
There is a skill in affirming boundaries without being defensive, angry or judgmental. It requires checking in with yourself: Is it their behaviour? Or what it triggers in you that needs work?
Need to draw a line? Try this: “I need to make an apology. When you “behaviour” I didn’t let you know its not OK with me. So I’m speaking up about it now…”
For my new boundary, I’ll be saying: Thank you, I’m OK with saying no to this opportunity. No listening to scripted sales call for me!
*Are you working on healthy boundaries? What else would you like to know to support you with that?
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